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The Problem with Being Perfectly Perfect

Deep within the nature of every human being is the desire to better our lives and experiences.  Growth is as natural for individuals as it is for seeds and nature.

This desire for growth goes beyond self and leads to actions that serve and bless others.  Parents want a better life for their children.  Teachers want their students to learn and grow.  Mentors want those that they lead to seize opportunities and make a difference.

The call to “Be ye therefore perfect” (Matthew 5:48) is a call to better ourselves.  It is a grand vision and perspective of our potential as human beings and our ability to be greater than our challenges, our weaknesses, and our emotions.

In the quest for a better life of success and significance, perfection or “the ideal” can be our downfall if not understood and utilized effectively.

UNHEALTHY USES OF PERFECTION

If you were to start walking toward the horizon how long would it take you and when would you arrive?  The answer is never.  No matter your speed the horizon will always be quicker than you are.  Why?  Because it is a moving target.

Years ago, when my wife and I were just starting our family, we were living in Colorado Springs, Colorado where I owned a health clinic and was a natural health coach and advisor.  We had the chance to “adopt” a cadet from the local U.S. Air Force Academy.

One of the conversations we had with this young man still sticks out to me as he was describing the culture of the academy.  He described one of the ways in which new cadets were molded, both physically and mentally.

He shared how they would often go running as groups but wouldn’t be told how far they were going to run.  Some days it would just be a couple of miles but on other days it would be for ten plus.

When you are focused on perfection it is like going on a run where you will never stop.  For some that may seem like fun but even Forest Gump had to stop at some point.

THE TREADMILL OF THE UNACHIEVABLE

Running toward the horizon, with no specific measurement tools or benchmarks along the way will lead to unhappiness, burn-out, frustration, and fatigue.  For short periods of time this may be acceptable (like a morning run) but when this thought pattern and habit persists it can be detrimental.

These early warning signs of frustration, worry, and stress can easily turn into patterns of burn-out, anger, alienation, and resentment.  It will eventually decimate your confidence and effectiveness as a leader, spouse, friend, and influencer.

If you are intensely focused on the moving horizon, no matter what you achieve and the accolades you accomplish, it will never be enough.  You’ll find that your achievements, awards, and the profits you earn will leave you empty and hallow, always dissatisfied with your destinations.

Impatience often rules in the mind of someone focused on being perfectly perfect.  You may also feel an increase in frustration and a decrease in productivity as you look back at the end of every day and find that the necessary steps to achieve a better life never occurred.

When you judge your own success by unachievable perfection you’ll find that in your down moments you’ll judge those closest to you by those same standards.  You’ll notice what they didn’t accomplish and why what they are doing isn’t enough.  Instead of seeing progress and experiencing joy on your path, you’ll see walls, barriers, impossibility, and lack of fulfillment.

PERFECTION IN ITS PROPER LIGHT

The target of perfection can be both inspiring and daunting but to see it in its proper light is imperative to your happiness and success.

Perfection needs to be channeled into a specific vision for something better.  If you don’t know where you’re going, it’s impossible to get there.  When a vision is specific and focused it:

  • Fills you with inspiration and motivation
  • Unleashes your passion, especially when you mix it with your past hero’s journey (struggles and successes)
  • Guides your thoughts and actions

As you get specific about your destination find ways to move toward it every day.  In reality, there is no tomorrow.  Your future is created in the actions you take right now; the actions you take today.

Measure your progress by listing your wins that have moved you toward your destination daily.  This little habit has the power to transform your mind and heal your self-esteem.  It is a small lever that has the leverage to move the “heaviness” of change.

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The #1 Obstacle to Your Material Success

I’m dropping you an email today to talk to you about the #1 obstacle that is limiting your material success.  This obstacle, however, is also limiting the quality of your relationships and health.

I’m going to share something with you that I haven’t shared with a lot of people.  Prior to 2008, I really struggled with money.  I fought so hard each and every day to make money but it wouldn’t flow.  I chased it and it ran away.

I kept hitting my head against the wall until I hit the wall and everything fell apart.  I went through some real dark times.  Fortunately, I didn’t lose everything but between my health and what was going on in my head, I almost didn’t make it.

I’VE BEEN GIVEN A NEW LIFE NOW.  A GIFT

In the process of digging out of the darkness I learned and applied some key principles that changed everything.  Today is a different story.  My income has tripled, the relationships with my family have become stronger, and I’m finding who I really am and my voice.

Looking back, there is one BIG obstacle that kept me from creating the life I wanted.  In my experience, I guarantee that this obstacle exists for you as well.

It’s your thoughts.  Most people go through their lives believing that they are their thoughts.  You are NOT your thoughts.

Have you ever noticed that the real you can step back and observe your thoughts?

Every leader and entrepreneur I have ever met and coached has had thoughts that either support their success or undermine it.  The key to lasting change and progress is to determine not what you think, but how you think.

As you become aware of your thoughts and then shift how you think you’ll find that the same expenditure of energy on a daily basis has significantly more return for your investment.  You’ll literally be creating your best life, each and every day.

HOW DO YOU DETERMINE HOW YOU THINK?

1) Take an Intentional Creation Assessment – Through a partnership with the Og Mandino group and Savi Health you can take an assessment for absolutely free.  It only takes about 15 minutes.  This isn’t a personality test like the DISC, or Kolbe, or Discover Your Strengths.  This test measures the effectiveness of how you think through mathematical science, then delivers your results immediately.

Click Here to Take the Assessment

2) Contact me to dive deep into the results – This can be a profound experience.  Just shoot me an email after you take the assessment at carl@momentummaximizer.com.  We’ll schedule a time to dig deep.  I only have room to debrief about 10 assessments in this next week with my current schedule.

To building your best life,

Carl Woolston
Momentum Coach

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